Dec 26, 2012
Harlow

Changes

With the New Year just around the corner, I’ve decided to make a few small adjustments within my Second Life & my blogging.  This past year of blogging, and being a part of the Second Life Community has been rewarding,  but also incredibly draining on me in numerous ways.  I started off blogging & being a part of the Second Life Community as a bright, and bubbly individual, and within the last few months, I’ve watched that naturally optimistic personality, and consistent bubbly nature I possess, slowly fade away.

To those of you who have noticed these negative changes in me, I apologize.  I’ve found myself being catty, grumpy, and overall negative towards not only countless people, but also countless things taking place in the community.  This is not me, or who I want to be.  It has always been my goal to make a positive impact in the community, and lately I’ve been more of a stormy rain cloud than anything else.  I guess we all have our moments eh?

I’ve had quite a few days to sit and ponder the reasons for this & after a lot of contemplation I’ve come to realize that Second Life, and blogging have turned into work for me.  I chalk it up to a new full time job in my real life taking most of my time, and also the growth my blog has experienced over the past year.  I am NOT complaining, nor am I trying to view any of this as a negative thing.  I’ve just come to realize that the pressures of making sure I blog every single item, and the pressures of blogging every single day are weighing on me in a negative way.

So enough of my pointless rambling.  The point I’m trying to make is that my blog will now focus more on quality over quantity.  When I make a new post I want to be putting my everything into it.  I want to take my time on the photographs, have the opportunity to be picky over what I show on my blog, and really focus my energy and time on doing posts that I LOVE instead of post I feel are necessary.

If you are a designer and you don’t feel I’m owning up to my obligations of blogging your items, please feel free to remove me from your groups.  You won’t see me throwing a public hissy fit over it, or looking at you in a negative way.  If you need a blogger who will blog every single item you create, than I am simply not your girl.

That being said, I am so appreciative of those who continually support me and trust me with the items they create.  I do hope to continue to showcase all sorts of beautiful items here in Second Life, I just may not be doing it at the speed some find reasonable.

I hope to really put a lot of love, effort, and work into this blog, but on my own accord. I want to be proud of what I show on here.  I don’t want to feel like my blogging is a chore, added work, or just another task to be completed.  I want it to be a reflection of the things I love here in the Second Life Community.

That being said, here our the credits for today’s post.  I especially encourage you to stop by What Next and pick up the limited edition copies of these adorable bicycles.  They even have one specifically for bloggers!

Credits:

Skin: League | Nena Janus – Isla – Medium

Eyes: Insufferable Dastard | Audrey Lamede – Glimmer – Gray

Hair: Magika | Sabina Gully – Little

Outfit: The Secret Store | Maylee Oh – Christmas Sweater, Christmas Tights, Crepe Skater Skirt & Star Headband

Hands: SLink | Siddean Munro – Mesh Hands

Boots: ISON | Harry Hyx - Girl Panic Boots – Black

Bike: What Next | Winter Thorn – Limited Edition Camden Bicycle – Blogger at Work (available through December 2012)

Location: Sunshine Mist

8 Comments

  • Harlow, I completely relate to majority of what you have shared here today mon amie. And I am with you 100% about keeping your 2013 positive and keeping true to the real you. Anytime you need some encouragement, you feel yourself slipping, know that you always have an outstretched hand to grab onto; mine.

  • Hi Harlow,

    I was just doing the same thing. I was always blogging fashion, trying to get the posts out, but really I wanted to take time with my photos. So I started doing the kind of photos I like again and if my blog doesn’t get the same views, then at least I have more fun doing it. I know exactly where you are coming from.

    And yes, suddenly I also had a full time job, so it’s hard to get quality work done with less time. Good luck, I always loved your blog :) Lola

  • Bravo Harlow! I completely echo your sentiments about feeling like the blog becoming work. Hugs and keep up the fantastic work sweetie!

  • Dear H,
    One of the hardest things people, especially women, can do is learn to say ‘no’. So many of us have what I’ve heard described as ‘the disease to please’. In trying to please all the people all the time, often all we end up achieving is disappointment.
    I think your decision is to be applauded because it articulates clear boundaries you’ve set for yourself and others. IMHO, quality wins over quantity every time. Keep up the great work in 2013!
    Arialle :)

  • It means so much hearing such kind words from each of you. Thank you so much. <3 I’m looking forward to 2013!

  • Very cute look!
    Happy new year, Harlow.

  • Hello Harlow,
    I hope you’re having a good holiday season? I think I can fully relate to what you’ve been going through. I too was at one stage helping out/working my own store, helping promote my friend’s store and various events. Juggling that with Real Life events meant it took a toll and no longer was I enjoying SL. Somehow, I stayed around but had to give up my many commitments and have my own SL to be just being with friends and socialising in general. I hope nothing but the best for your 2013 both in SL and RL, have a good balance between work and play :)

    Tee

  • I’ve been feeling this way too and can see that it has effected you as well.you’re a wonderful person Harlow and we love seeing the bubbly person you are.

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